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(That\u2019s smarty pants talk for lovah.)\n\n\n**Why is it that men and women who are the most educated, most accomplished, and most intelligent seem to have the hardest time dating?**\nAs one of my brightest friends, a Ph.D. candidate at Cornell University, recently lamented, \u201cI guess I just want the best and have a hard time overlooking the things about people that annoy me! It is really starting to settle in, however, that I am likely going to be single during my time at Cornell.\u201d\n\n\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022**Sponsored Ads** | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-California.html?gender=male Men Dating In California]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Michigan.html?gender=male Meet Michigan Single Men]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Oklahoma.html?gender=male Dating Oklahoma Boys]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Pennsylvania.html?gender=male Pennsylvania Boys Seeking Dating]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Indiana.html?gender=female Indiana Men Online]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Colorado.html?gender=female Colorado Boys Dating]]\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\nAccording to Dr. Alex Benzer, author of The Tao of Dating books, brainy folks may be too smart for their own good when it comes to matters of the heart.\n\nIn an article for The Huffington Post, Benzer posits that, \u201cthe smarter you are, the more clueless you will be, and the more problems you\u2019re going to have in your dating life.\u201d\n\n**So why do intellectual whiz-kids fare worst romantically?**\nFirst, Benzer says, smart people often grow up in families focused on academic achievement rather than relationship building: \u201cTime spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.\u201d\n\nThis describes my family\u2014and lack of early dating life\u2014precisely. But I\u2019m glad my parents prized intelligence over dating triumphs. It saved me a lot of wasted time wooing teen geeks. And made me an interesting person worthy of wooing adult geeks.\n\nAs Tina Fey said in a May 2008 interview with Marie Claire, \u201cYou know what? Let the boys practice on other girls. Let them treat other girls like crud, let them learn how to French kiss for, like, ten years, let them give some other girl a bunch of crappy Valentine\u2019s Day gifts, and then you just move in when they\u2019re fully formed.\u201d\n\nBut Benzer says fully formed brainiacs can have a tougher time with romance than young smarties. He says as adults, smart people often limit themselves to dating other high IQ individuals, thus eliminating 95 percent of the dating pool.\n\nBut wait\u2014isn\u2019t it true that smart men will date dumb women, as long as they\u2019re hot?\n\n\u201cThey won\u2019t tolerate it after about seven minutes,\u201d says one Ivy League grad I spoke to. After a brief pause, he added, \u201cOkay, they\u2019ll tolerate it long enough to have sex, but then they get bored.\u201d\n\n\u201cMy really smart female friends, in general, are less willing to tolerate stupidity in the name of sex,\u201d he says.\n\n**Sounds numbingly familiar. So what are we clever lonely-hearts to do?**\nWell, there\u2019s always Mensa. That\u2019s right, in order get to the bottom of this dating dichotomy, I called in the big brains.\n\nI asked Elissa Rudolph, a thirty-year Mensa member from Delray Beach, Florida, and Michelle (who preferred we not use her last name), a thirty-two-year-old single Mensan from Atlanta, to share their wise-girl dating experiences with Betty.\n\nBetty: Do you date intelligent men exclusively?\nElissa: \u201cI joined Mensa because I wanted to meet interesting men, and I even married a couple,\u201d says Elissa, whose two ex-husbands are both Mensa members. \u201cBut what draws people to one another isn\u2019t their IQ, it\u2019s some sort of chemical reaction.\u201d\n\nElissa\u2019s now dating a man who\u2019s not a Mensan, although she says he probably could qualify. \u201cWhat I was looking for was a warm, nurturing man who was also manly. I\u2019ve found one and I\u2019m hanging on to him!\u201d\n\n**Michelle**: \u201cI wouldn\u2019t say I would limit myself to only the top five percent of the population, but I definitely need to be with someone who is intelligent and who can challenge me and have a good discussion. I don\u2019t think, however, that it necessarily limits the dating pool.\u201d\n\n\u201cWe meet people most frequently by doing things that interest us. Someone who is very into sports may prefer someone else who\u2019s extremely athletic and also into sports,\u201d she says. \u201cSimilarly, someone who is extremely smart \u2026 gravitates towards other smart people.\u201d\n\n**Betty**: Do you think being a smart woman has hindered your dating life?\n**Elissa**: \u201cThere\u2019s a little bit of a bias in men against smart women, still, even after all these years. But really, it\u2019s just one more challenge.\u201d\n\n**Michelle**: \u201cNo. I think that when it comes to dating, attitude and personality play a role more than IQ.\u201d\n\n**Betty**: So is intelligence just a convenient scapegoat for being single?\n**Michelle**: \u201cI think it\u2019s \u2026 human nature to want to figure out why you\u2019re not successful at something that others appear to be successful at,\u201d she says. \u201cYou look for answers as to why you\u2019re not in a serious relationship when the rest of the world looks like they\u2019re happily ever after. So we tell ourselves something like, \u2018It must be because I\u2019m smart.\u2019\u201d\n\n**Betty**: Is it ever awkward revealing to a man you\u2019re in Mensa?\n**Elissa**: \u201cOne guy in particular, as I was explaining [about Mensa], his eyes just kind of glazed over. I knew I\u2019d lost it, I knew I would never see him again. But I can\u2019t lie about it. I wasn\u2019t saying, \u2018I\u2019m so smart.\u2019 I was just explaining what the organization is,\u201d she says with a laugh. \u201cBut I knew that he wasn\u2019t going to call back.\u201d\n\nWhen she explained her Mensa membership to her current partner, she says, \u201cHis eyes didn\u2019t glaze over, so I knew I had a chance there!\u201d\n\n**Michelle**: \u201cI once met a guy in a bar and we were chatting and it came out that I was in Mensa. He seemed surprised, but we kept chatting. A little later I said something that was perhaps a bit airheaded and his response was, \u2018That\u2019s right, you people don\u2019t have a lot of common sense.\u2019 For a variety of reasons (not just the one comment), we didn\u2019t end up going out.\u201d\n\n\u201cOne guy I dated was clearly shocked when I first told him that I was in Mensa \u2013 he physically backed up a few feet and sort of gaped at me. However, he then said it was cool and he\u2019d never known anyone in Mensa. After that it was something that he seemed kind of proud of and would good-naturedly tease me about from time to time.\u201d\n\n**Betty**: So how do smart women get ahead in the dating world?\n**Elissa**: \u201cYou really have to know yourself before you can get to know somebody else. Having an IQ doesn\u2019t necessarily mean you know yourself any better than a person with an average IQ,\u201d she says, reiterating Benzer\u2019s advice to \u201cloosen up.\u201d\n\n**Michelle**: \u201cBeing intelligent can help dating \u2026 you have interesting stories and opinions to share that may help you land a date. But there may be side effects of being intelligent that can hinder dating. The trick is to understand how your personality and other characteristics both help and hinder you socially.\n\nWhat do you think? Is dating harder for smarter people? Has being smart woman hurt your dating life?","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-06-18","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-06-18","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"IsDatingHarderIfYoureSmarter","date_creation_fiche":"2025-06-18 16:55:37","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-06-18 16:55:37","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-06-18\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-06-18\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022IsDatingHarderIfYoureSmarter\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-06-18 16:55:37\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-06-18 16:55:37\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/saraelie.fr\/?IsDatingHarderIfYoureSmarter"},"WhyApproachingWomenSetsYouApart":{"bf_titre":"Why Approaching Women Sets You Apart","bf_description":"{{attach file=\u0022istockphoto674663548612x612.jpg\u0022 desc=\u0022image istockphoto674663548612x612.jpg (31.0kB)\u0022 size=\u0022big\u0022 class=\u0022center\u0022}}\n\nI\u0027m better than her because I am approaching.\n\nBut I approach to see what she\u0027s like, not because I want to get with her. I have to find out what she\u0027s like first. So my mind isn\u0027t made up one way, or the other.\n\nI approach and engage her in conversation, and if she doesn\u0027t hook relatively soon I move on. I don\u0027t think about what I could have done differently. Experience has taught me that all you can really do to engage someone is talk to them normally, and see if they will engage back.\n=====Knowing When You\u0027ve Done Enough=====\nThe hard part can be knowing when you\u0027ve done enough. The temptation is, if you talk to a bunch of girls and they don\u0027t respond well, you need to \u0022up\u0022 your game. IOW it\u0027s your fault, so you need to ratchet up your efforts. That\u0027s a trap, and it\u0027s easy to fall into because there are so many socially repressed women. So it\u0027s easy to feel that the weight of evidence is stacked against you. But in reality, that\u0027s not the case.\n\nTake me for example. I know from experience that I live in an antisocial area and I\u0027m one of the select few that are approaching. This is a direct observation, and not a figment of my imagination. So from that perspective, the problem isn\u0027t mine. Furthermore, when I talk to girls, I talk to them the same way I would as if I met them through friends, or in other equally intimate settings. But in these settings they are generally much more receptive. But when I\u0027m a stranger in public they are not nearly as friendly, in general. So when I consider both these factors I know it\u0027s not my fault. It\u0027s the fault of the women who are biased against meeting a stranger in public. It\u0027s the fault of the women who behave like herds of sheep when out in public.\n=====The Therapeutic Value Of Socializing=====\nBut nonetheless, approaching can be therapeutic. Just socializing in general can be therapeutic, even with antisocial types. This is because you\u0027re not letting yourself stagnate. You are not letting yourself get trapped inside your head. And as an added plus, you are the better person because you are more social. And as long as you\u0027re just having fun, it doesn\u0027t matter much if they don\u0027t engage you back. [Breaking the ice with women](https:\/\/blog.loveawake.com\/2021\/03\/22\/breaking-the-ice-with-women\/) becomes a personal achievement rather than a means to an end. I\u0027m driving my convertible with the top down and even if no chick gets in with me, so what. I\u0027m still driving my convertible with the top down.\n\nClearly, my views are very different from those in the seduction community, which usually lays blame at the feet of men. I disagree that it\u0027s usually men\u0027s fault, simply because there exists no equivalent community for women. So it makes no sense for men to carry the burden of getting it right, when women aren\u0027t trying nearly as hard.\n=====Rejecting The Blame Game=====\nAccording to the seduction community, if the girl doesn\u0027t respond well it\u0027s my fault. Um no. Maybe at one time I had a role to play in that, but at this stage I have accumulated enough acumen, so the problem is not mine. It\u0027s usually theirs. It\u0027s not arrogance. It\u0027s a fact. But who knows, maybe there is a way to get her, but usually that involves identity level personality (or appearance) changes, the kind the seduction community encourages. But that totally takes the fun away from approaching and socializing. If I have to neg, then I\u0027m no longer socializing, I\u0027m scheming, and that sucks the life out of the situation (and me). I simply cannot do it, and I have tried. But I cannot. I can only talk like I normally do and see if she is worth it for me. When [connecting with women through conversation](https:\/\/blog.loveawake.com\/2020\/10\/26\/connecting-with-women-through-conversation\/), authenticity matters far more than rehearsed tactics. However, in some cases it may be that she secretly likes me but is too timid to show it. So what. She played her hand badly and I moved on. As far as I\u0027m concerned I\u0027m a walking lottery ticket and any girl who doesn\u0027t snatch it up with enthusiasm, it\u0027s her loss.\n=====Screening For Real Compatibility=====\nLike I said, I will approach, but not with the mindset of [getting girls](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/North-Carolina\/city-of-Durham.html?gender=female), but to have fun and screen. I approach with the mindset of enjoying myself and also seeing what she\u0027s like. I might structure my initial approach to be as smooth and natural as possible, but that\u0027s just a normal social calibration, the same way you wouldn\u0027t jump on a customer to make a sale. And once the conversation begins I am monitoring her reactions to see if she digs me, and at all times I am weighing that against my own efforts, and if I see that I am not getting a good response relatively soon I move on.\n\nAnd if she is digging me I then do another check. I check to see if she wants the same kind of relationship as me. And if she matches *that* criteria, I\u0027ll go for the close. [Winning dates and influence women](https:\/\/blog.loveawake.com\/2019\/02\/11\/how-to-win-dates-and-influence-women\/) requires you to take responsibility for approaching rather than leaving it to chance or hoping she makes the first move.\n\nBut she has to warm up to me first, which essentially means she\u0027s attracted to me and isn\u0027t hiding it. Nothing happens without that.\n\nNow, there are things you can do to help her warm up to you a bit better, from the beginning, but that comes from the social pre-calibration, to avoid setting off stalker alarms or whatever; like getting her to notice you first, or maybe by way of her seeing me hanging out with buddies and being popular. BUT if at the point [I am chatting with her](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/Wisconsin\/city-of-Madison.html?gender=female) she does not engage me back, I move on. She had her chance, and the more work I have to put in the less I get out. Less is always more where women are concerned. The more effort you put into getting with her the less you get out, so the ROI drops off really fast if she doesn\u0027t open up real soon. This is because, when a woman is difficult it\u0027s because she has issues, or she doesn\u0027t like you. This is unlike a legitimate challenge where you have an honest payoff after you put in the effort. So difficulty with a woman is never a sign of something good.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-12-08","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-12-08","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"WhyApproachingWomenSetsYouApart","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_creation_fiche":"2025-12-08 10:01:56","statut_fiche":"1","date_maj_fiche":"2025-12-10 03:07:22","user":"74.7.241.30","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-12-08\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-12-08\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022WhyApproachingWomenSetsYouApart\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-12-08 10:01:56\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-12-10 03:07:22\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/saraelie.fr\/?WhyApproachingWomenSetsYouApart"}}